According to an Arab proverb, we will never be able to give what we do not have. To spend we have to bear. To teach we need knowledge. To protect us to be strong. Then, to lead what should we have? Self-image as a free man!
Before you can lead others, the ability to lead yourself is a must. Some call this competence as self-leadership, Self-Mastery, Mastery, or personal. The point is the ability to become master of himself, departed from the faith, conviction, that is not the environment that created us, but we are the ones who create the environment that our self is the subject while the environment is the object, and not vice versa. An awareness of ultimate independence, a free will, that God has bestowed, which distinguishes us from a variety of other creatures, as His Word: "God inspired it (the road) wickedness and piety, which indeed successful who purify his soul, and loss real people who pollute it "(Surat ash-Shams: 8-10).
Self-image as independent human beings makes us human with an internal locus of control, people who believed that he was the cause, as well as the factors responsible, upon receipt of results. Internal locus of control is a reflection of self-responsibility, ability to be responsible for the fate of self, which is the forerunner of responsibility for the fate of many people. Internal locus of control is also the main characteristics of a mature and adult person emotionally and spiritually.
Self-image as a free human being is a prerequisite to human learners, learners leader, leader of the only species capable of transforming themselves into leaders of the five levels. In this context, the image of ourselves as independent human beings provides a solid foundation for the mental awakening of learning (learning mental). Borrowing a model from Taufik Bahaudin (2001), the learning process begins with the mental construct a self-awareness, self-awareness about the rational, understanding of the strengths (Strengths), limited (non-Strengths), and weaknesses (weaknesses), in addition to reading skills position themselves in the context of various factors and external actors. Allah SWT equip us with tools that make self-awareness is a necessity: enable senses that we perceive a stimulus, and the rational brain (neo-cortex), which gives us the ability to analyze and evaluate the object of which is recorded by our senses. Simple example, Budi, a student, saw the announcement of midterms (UTS), one of the courses attended. In the list of specified values reach 50, while the average value of 70 classes. Without much difficulty rational brain will come to the conclusion, "I value well below the class average."
Then, if Budi will be encouraged to learn more effort to achieve a better final grades? Not necessarily. Knew something was wrong or less do not necessarily congruent with the drive (drive) to fix it. There are at least able to drive is determined by the least Budi build self-acceptance. In contrast to build self-awareness which is a rational process and is a work of intellectual intelligence (intellectual intelligence, IQ), build self-acceptance is an emotional process, and even spiritual, involving not only the rational brain, but a harmonious collaboration between the rational brain to the emotional brain (limbic system), and is a work of spiritual intelligence (spiritual intelligence, SQ).
Viewed from the side of a deeper, using the conception of spiral dynamics (Beck & Cowan, 2004), there are at least internal drive to improve and enhance the self is largely determined by the color or thinking, or levels of 'DNA' Psycho-Social Budi, who answered questions whether the chemical processes in the brain has been able to raise the value of honesty, encourage him to ask "what's wrong with me?" or exactly set him up in the question "what's wrong with Others?" lack of self-acceptance is reflected in the form of faith "mistake rather than on the television I" , or blaming Others mentality. Implications? Fatal incredible! As the switch-off switch that makes the brain and mind are not working to find ways to improve themselves. If you believe the noise in the image displayed on your TV set while watching a favorite show is caused by problems with the TV station in question, would you go to a repair place to fix your TV set? Of course not! You will stand idly at home, praying that the station immediately improved performance.
Interesting to note that the ability to build self-acceptance is not directly proportional to the attributes such as age, educational level, and high and low rank and position. "Livestock scapegoat" was aware or could not be developed by anyone. Habit "black sheep breeding" This is a declaration of a person, though perhaps implicit in nature, that he was reluctant to change. In Carey's declaration appears in the expression of a clear pattern: "not that I do not want to change, the environment's gone ...," or" how could I change in conditions that do not support like this, "or" I really want to change, but ... because ...," and various other sentences congruent true. Against people like that, let alone anyone else, even God-even reluctant to help him to change (Surah Ar Ra'd: 11).
An economic ministers in the cabinet of the ruling at the beginning of the 1997 monetary crisis, a doctoral professor, visited by a reporter who asked the fate of the Indonesian economy after South Korea which is one of the strengths of the Asian economic crisis devastated the storm hit. He deny the reality of Indonesia was also infected with the crisis by making a myriad of historical data about our economic achievements in the past, such as growth and high foreign reserves and low inflation. When the reporters could only nod and contain the statement as a newspaper headline the next day. And along with the continued collapse of the rupiah and U.S. dollar strong, the Government issued a stance excuses of "psychological barrier" that no clear conceptual basis. Funny thing is again, the psychological barrier rises, along unstoppable not increase in value of the dollar, USD 5000, USD 7500, and the last USD 10 000. Rebuttal is pretty much the same when he pointed out that the same journalist hordes come back when "next door neighbor's house", Thailand, also passed the virus infected the crisis. That is, let alone self-acceptance, even self-awareness-did not appear in addressing the crisis. Only after penetrating dollar limit "magical" USD 15 000 out of statements, "we were hit by the crisis." But, sadly, self-acceptance did not even arise, because the statement that arises is, "it's because the foreign powers that disrupt our economy, "or," this act because of George Soros. "That the IMF, foreign powers, and Jews made us as a hotbed of economic hit their team is indeed a reality. But, we will only be victims if we - consciously or not - indeed volunteered to be sacrificed.
Back, honesty is the key word. It is impossible to build a mental learning, it is impossible to form a learning leader, and therefore also impossible to build the fifth level leader, without menghujamkan value of honesty in the deepest heart. In this context, among others, why the value of honesty is one of the operational value (operating values), which became a pillar of integrity, which is one of five basic values (primary values) PPSDMS Nurul Fikri. Even if examined closely, the necessity to build a learning leader is implicit in the meaning of integrity who formulated by PPSDMS Nurul Fikri, namely: "Having a mature and adult personality, based on the ability to harmonize thoughts, words and deeds, say and act honestly, and take responsibility, so that they can become agents of change who is trustworthy. "mentally possessed of learning, which makes us have an internal locus of control, a characteristic of a mature and adult personality.
The existence of mental learning steadily and has become the neural path-way ("software" or "automatic pilot" in our brain) that appear in response to spontaneous "what's wrong with me?" Identified by Collins as one of the important pillars of the phenomenon of leadership ladder Fifth: "looks in the mirror, not out the window, to apportion responsibility for poor results, never blaming other people, external factors, or bad luck," and vice versa, "looks out the window, not in the mirror, to apportions credit for the success of the company - to other people, external factors, and good luck. "It is clear that the mental awakening of learning is the foundation of the basic character that seems paradoxical from the leaders of the five levels: professional and personal will of Humility. Implications? Awesome! Kaizen. Continuous improvement.